Family as the Main Parenting Institute

Traditionally, a family is the main parenting institute. A child will keep everything acquired in his childhood throughout the rest of his life. The importance of a family as the main parenting institute is due to the fact that a child spends most of his life in it, and none of the institutes of education influences a person as long as his family does. Family lays the basis of child’s personality, and he is a half-formed person when it’s time to go to school.

A family can be both a positive and a negative factor of parenting. A positive impact on a child's personality is that no one but those closest people to him in his family, the mother, the father, the grandmother, the grandfather, the brother, the sister, do not care of the child and do not love him better and stronger as they do. And at the same time no other social institution can potentially cause so much harm to the education of a child, as his family can do.

Family is some kind of a team that plays a basic, long-term and important role in their child’s education. Anxious mothers often have anxious children, ambitious parents so often suppress their children that an inferiority complex starts developing in them; an intemperate father, being angry at the slightest provocation, unwittingly and often shapes the similar type of behavior in his children, etc.

In connection with the importance of family’s influence a question arises how to maximize the positive and minimize the negative family’s impact on child parenting. To do this it is necessary to accurately determine social and psychological factors that have educational value in a family.

The main thing in parenting a little person is to achieve unity of souls and moral connection between parents and the child. Parents should not neglect the process of education in any case, and not to leave their child alone with his worries when he grows up.

In the family a child receives his first experience, makes his first observations and learns how to behave in different situations. It is important that all the knowledge a child gets should be reinforced with specific examples, for him to see that his parents’ theory does not differ from practice. (If a child sees that his mom and dad, who every day tell him that lying is bad, unwittingly act the opposite way, so his education will be useless then.)

Each parent sees his continuation in his children, the implementation of his own certain beliefs or ideals.

Conflicts between parents are the result of different approaches to parenting.

The first task of the parents is to find a common solution, to convince each other. If they have to compromise, it is necessary to make sure that the basic claims of both parties are satisfied. When one parent makes a decision, he must remember about the second parent’s opinion.

The second task is to make sure that the child does not see the contradictions in his parents’ positions, i.e. it is better to discuss these issues without him.

Children quickly "seize" the said things and maneuver between their parents quite easily, achieving immediate benefits (usually because of laziness, poor studies, disobedience, etc.).

When making decisions, parents should consider not their own opinions first, but the things that will be more beneficial for their child.

In communication between adults and children there are such principles:

-   a parent accepts his child the way he is;
-   a parent looks at the problems through the eyes of his child, takes his position;
-   adequate attitude to what is happening.


And which principle of communication is there in your family?

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